Thursday, 28 November 2013

Developmental milestones: talking


Speech from your little one's perspective.

Your toddler will gradually understand how she can use words to describe what she sees, hears, feels and thinks. Even before she uttered her first word, she was listening to and learning from everyone around her.

How did my baby's speech develop in her first year?
From the moment your baby arrived in the world, she was learning how to communicate. Her first form of communication was crying. She cried when she was hungry, uncomfortable or tired

From around
three months, your baby may have started to babble to herself and make sounds back when you talked to her. She may have begun to recognize her name, and even responded when you said it from across the room.
From around
six months, you may have noticed your baby favouring certain sounds, such as "ba" or "ma", as these were easier to pronounce. She may have repeated them over and over because she liked the way they sounded

How will my toddler learn to talk?
12 to 17 months
From around her
first birthday, your toddler may begin to use one or more words and know what they mean. Her first words could well be a variation of "mummum" or "dada"

By around
15 months, your toddler will probably raise her voice at the end of a question. She may make hand gestures to emphasize what she's saying, such as pointing and waving

Your toddler may be able to understand and follow simple or routine instructions, such as "Pick up your teddy" or "Come to the table"


18 to 24 months
By
18 months your toddler may use between six and 20 simple words.. By two, your toddler may be using 50 or more single words.
She may be able to put two words together, making basic sentences such as "Carry me"
. When you sing a nursery rhyme, she'll attempt to sing along with you . So if you sing "twinkle twinkle little..." and pause, your toddler may add in "star."

She will
chatter to herself as she plays. Enjoy listening to your toddler as she creates her own little world. It doesn't matter if what she says doesn't make sense. The rhythm will sound like real speech .

Pronouns such as 'I','she', and 'it' may confuse your toddler. These labels for things and people are a little too abstract for her just yet. You may catch her avoiding pronouns, saying "Baby throw" instead of "I throw". There's no need to worry if your toddler's speech doesn't sound clear yet. Every toddler learns different sounds at different stages.

25 to 36 months
Your excitable toddler may struggle not to shout when she's expressing herself. She doesn't yet understand how she can change her voice to find the right volume when talking


Your toddler will start to get the hang of pronouns, such as 'I', 'me', and 'you'
. She will also be using the word "no" a lot. This is her way of asserting her independence from you!

Between the ages of
two and three, your toddler's vocabulary will increase to about 300 words . She will string naming words and action words together to form complete, though simple, sentences such as "I go now"

Your toddler may ask you simple questions, such as "What?", "Where?" and "Who?" a lot
. Get ready to be patient as your curious toddler wants to know the answer to everything!

By the time she turns three, your toddler will be able to have a simple conversation with you about what's she doing now or something she's done in the recent past.


But don't be surprised if your toddler gets the tense wrong when she's telling you about something that's happened. For example, she may tell you that she "swimmed", when she means that she "swam"
. Try not to tell your toddler that she got the word wrong. Instead, answer her with the correct tense. So tell her, "yes, we swam yesterday."

By now your toddler may be able to tell you her full name and gender, and perhaps even her age.

How can I encourage my toddler to talk?
Talk to your toddler as much as possible as you go about your daily routine and when you are out and about. The more you talk to your toddler, the more new words she'll learn, and the better she'll get at talking

Chat to your toddler as you change her
nappy, feed, or bathe her, and give her time to respond with a smile or eye-to-eye contact. Use everyday activities to help your toddler to make connections between actions and objects and the words that represent them. Point out things you see when you're out and about .

Simplify your speech when you talk to your toddler. Use short sentences and emphasise key words. This will help your toddler to focus on the important information


Try talking to your toddler from time to time in sentences that are about one word longer than the sentences she is using. So if your child uses two-word sentences, use lots of three-word and four-word sentences when talking back to her
. For example, if your toddler says "a fish", you could say, "yes, a big fish."

You can increase your child's vocabulary by giving her choices, such as "Do you want an orange or an apple?"
. You could even show your child both an apple and an orange. This helps your toddler to store a picture of the word in her mind.

It will help your toddler to learn how to talk if you make time to sit in front of her and talk to her. You could even sit in front of her when you read a book, rather than have her on your lap, so she can watch you talking.

Look at
books with your toddler regularly. Even if you don't follow the story as it unfolds, your toddler will learn by listening to you talk about the picture.

How will I know if my toddler is having trouble learning to talk?
There's no simple test that can tell you whether your toddler is having problems learning to talk

If you're worried, have a chat to your
health visitor . She will most likely be able to reassure you that your child's speech is developing normally, or refer you to a speech and language therapist for assessment.

Wednesday, 6 November 2013

Boys and girls: developmental differences

Children do develop slightly differently depending on their gender. But there's more variation amongst girls and boys than there is between them (Einon 2006: 35). Every child is unique and will develop at his or her own pace.
Gender identity
Toddlers may know their gender by the time they are three years old. However, toddlers live in the present, and may not realize that their gender now will be the same when they grow up (Einon 2006: 148-150).
Until toddlers are about three years old, they will just choose the toy to play with that they enjoy most. Whether it’s a doll or a toy lorry will make no difference to them.

It’s difficult to avoid your toddler being exposed to
gender stereotypes. Between three years old and four years old, children may start to choose the toys that they think are appropriate for their gender (Einon 2006: 148-150).
It’s around this age that children may start to prefer playing with friends of their own gender (Einon 2006: 150-151). Children may also choose gender-specific toys because they help them to fit in with their friends.

Even if you've tried to create a gender-neutral home, your little one may still see a dividing line between boys and girls. Toddlers have firm ideas about how girls and boys should behave and which toys they should play with. This is normal. Children see things in black and white. And this applies to gender as much as anything else.
Getting dressed
On average, girls learn how to do the fiddly things, such as dressing themselves and scribbling, earlier than boys (Einon 2006: 35; 166).
Both dressing and scribbling with crayons involve
fine motor skills. These are the small actions that toddlers make with their fingers and thumbs.
Making friends
Girls tend to develop social skills, such as the inclination to play with other children, earlier than boys (Einon 2006: 157). However, toddlers' social development is more related to the situation in which they're brought up than their gender (Einon 2006: 157).
Toddlers with older siblings may find it easier to get used to playing with other children, whereas single children may be more comfortable with adults (Einon 2006: 157).

When toddlers are three years or older, they will really start to understand love and trust. They'll start to be affectionate towards friends and extended family (Sheridan 2008) and may be keen to give their favourite people frequent hugs! They’ll also get better at sharing their toys, and may label all their playmates as friends (Sheridan 2008).
Physical activity
Generally, boys are more active and restless than girls, but it's a small difference (Einon 2006: 172). All toddlers love to keep busy by running, jumping, and throwing things. And all toddlers need at least three hours' activity a day.
However, there is evidence that boys are slightly more likely to
let their anger show when they are frustrated than girls are (Chaplin and Aldao 2012).

If your toddler's behaviour is sometimes a
challenge, keep calm and be consistent. Remember that all toddlers need the security of clear rules.
Potty training
Girls do tend to be potty trained about three months earlier than boys (Einon 2006: 164, Wu 2010). We don't really know why this is. Perhaps girls are more interested in feeling dry than boys are. Or maybe it's because boys tend to like being on the go more of the time, so they may be less happy with anything that prevents them from doing this, such as sitting on a potty.
Try not to worry and don't feel pressure to start
potty training before your toddler is ready. Every child is different.

Potty training is more likely to be successful if you let your child set the pace. Look for the signs that your toddler is ready to start. These signs can appear any time between 18 months and three years.
References
Brazelton TB. 1962. A child-oriented approach to toilet-training. Pediatrics. 29 (1): 121-128

Chaplin, DM and Aldao, A. 2012. Gender Differences in Emotion Expression in Children: A Meta-Analytic Review. Psychol Bull. Epub ahead of print.
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BAECE. British Association for Early Childhood Education. 2012. Developmental matters in the early years foundation stage.
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Einon, D. 2006. The Baby Development Test. London: Vermilion.

Sheridan M. 2008. From birth to five years: children's developmental progress. London: Routledge.
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Seven surprises to look out for as your child grows up

Life is full of surprises when you're a parent. We thought we'd prepare you for a few of them.

Your child will say "I love you"
You may encourage your little one to say those three little words on a number of occasions. However, the first time he says "I love you" unprompted will take you by surprise and melt your heart.

Your child will get too big for your lap
There will come a day when you can't comfortably sit with your child on your lap anymore while you read a book together or watch a movie. While you might feel sad when this time comes, you can still snuggle up in bed together on cold mornings and have big bear hugs.

Your child will want time alone
You may have become used to not being able to go to the bathroom without your little one waiting for you outside the door. So when you’re suddenly confronted by an unfamiliar silence, you'll probably rush to make sure everything's OK. What will you find? Your child playing happily alone. He may even have gone into his own room and shut the door behind him. While this might be a bit of a wrench for you, try not to feel too upset. It's all part of him developing his independence.

Your child will teach you a thing or two
While you find yourself struggling to remember where you put your keys and what you gave grandma for Christmas last year, your child and his sharp mind will remind you. As he starts preschool and then school, he will also share with you what he's learning, which may well be things you've forgotten all about.

Your child will hurt your feelings
Unfortunately, there will be times when your child will say things he doesn’t really mean. So prepare yourself for the day when he says he hates you. He'll also tell you how "mean" you are, and when he's much older, how "embarrassing" you are. And then there are the daily honesties that can be hard to hear: "Mummy, your teeth are yellow!" or "Daddy, your breath smells bad!" It’s best to stay calm and explain to your child that saying such things isn’t nice and can hurt people's feelings.

Your child will show true bravery
Your child will be terrified of doing something, perhaps sleeping in the dark for the first time, but one evening you'll see him push through the fear and make it through the night. Prepare to feel immense pride.

Your child will make you a better person
As you know your child is watching, you'll find yourself swearing less, being kinder to others and maybe even promoting a more positive body image. Enjoy setting a good example to your ever-surprising child.




Toddlers and television

Toddlers and television
Highlights
Starting out tough from day one is the key to keeping your toddler's viewing time under control. It's a lot easier to relax your standards later than it is to wean an 18-month-old from a four-times-a-day "Teletubbies" habit. Here are some other tips on how to use television wisely.
Limit the amount of TV your child watches
If your child is under two, try to keep TV-watching to a bare minimum. If you do choose to allow your child to watch television, break it up into 10- to 15-minute slots. More than that and his little brain can go on autopilot. From age two to three, limit his total viewing time to an hour a day -- even that amount is a lot for an active toddler. You should also keep the television out of your child's bedroom and off during mealtimes.
Watch programmes, not television
Rather than sitting down to watch whatever is on, use the TV listings to carefully select what your child is going to watch, and turn off the set when that program is over. A five-minute warning that a beloved show is about to end will help your toddler get ready for the next activity.
Choose calm, quiet programmes
Slower-paced viewing gives your child time to think about what he's watching and absorb the information. Lots of random action, like the kind in action/adventure cartoons, will only confuse him. Also, some research suggests that children who watch violence on TV are more likely to display aggressive behaviour. Stay away from scary programmes, too. Instead, choose simple ones that emphasise interactivity. Programmes that inspire your child to make sounds, say words, sing and dance are great.
Watch TV with your children whenever possible
A recent study looked at three groups: children with unlimited access to television, children with moderate access to television who watched without parents and children with moderate access to television who watched with a parent. The last group scored significantly higher academically than did the other groups. Just being there says to your child, "What you do is important to me". Of course we all have moments when we have to use television or a video as a babysitter, but when you leave your child alone with the TV for a long time, you send a signal that you don't care what he watches. If you can, bring a basket of laundry to sort or some other task into the room with you so you can work and watch. Then it becomes an activity the two of you can enjoy together.
Help your child watch with a critical eye
As much as you can, explain what's going on in the programme and during the adverts (and clarify the difference between the two). Encourage your child to ask questions and relate what is happening in the programme to his own life. If you have a VCR, consider taping programmes. That way you can watch when you choose, and pause the tape to discuss what's going on. You can also fast-forward through the adverts.
Extend the programme's content with activities or books
If you and your child have just finished watching a Tweenies episode that mentions a number, talk about it later and find other examples to show him. When you're setting the table, for example, you might say, "Hey, today's number was three, and there are three places to set!" Or read and discuss a book that includes number concepts.